We joined some close friends and their school aged son and daughter for dinner. Instead of asking the kids “How was your day?” or “How was school today?” we played a round of “Best & Worst.” Instead of asking an open ended question, it allowed them, and us, to be specific about something great that happened, and something not so great. Natural conversation ensued, as did the connection that was sought by suggesting the themes.
Since that time I have found “Best & Worst” to be a great way to generate conversation in any situation. It is an inquisitive tool that invites authentic conversation and demonstrates sincere interest in a person’s experience, whether they are a family member or a near stranger. It also creates a touch of vulnerability which allows for mini (and sometimes macro) moments of fellowship and trust. You tell me yours, I tell you mine.
Give it a try the next time someone is talking about the weather or struggling to make conversation. We are all our “favorite” topic of conversation. We don’t need to be “interesting” only “interested” to stimulate and contribute to meaningful conversation and connection in any situation.
Let me know how it goes!